Has Anyone Ever Tried To Murder You?...
...My biological dad tried when I was 13-years-old.
Waking up to a disturbed sleep on the second floor of our house, I pushed aside my blanket and dragged my child-like body off the bed. Feeling abnormally hot, as I stepped onto the ceramic tile floor, I heard a sizzle sound and, simultaneously, withdrew my feet from the floor. My dad was burning the house; and the children were in it... sleeping.
There is so much more details to this true story, but the point I want to make is YOU. What would the world be missing if it did not have you? What is your story? It is obvious, for the fact that you are a human being, that you have faced a point in your life that hope, motivation, drive, discipline, and positivity have all instantly faded away. Yet, day in and day out, you keep pushing. Maybe some of us don’t consciously know why we do so. Maybe most of us know why we do so. Through experiences, whether my own or of my clients’, I’ve learned 3 lifeworth topics: Relationships, Drive, and Purpose.
Relationship is everything. Again, relationship is everything (x21, [They say after you say it 21 times consecutively it will be ingrained in you.]). Of course, healthy relationships is what I am referring to. The University of Minnesota published an article stating that healthy relationships is a sign of increased longevity, less stress, healthier lifestyle, and a sense of richness! Understanding the power and implication that relationships play a role in my personal and professional life, within relationships, I’ve set 8 layers of relationships. They are found below in order of priorities from a personal standpoint:
Religious affiliation - God. I truly believe that my relationship with Jesus Christ is my most treasured one; and my vertical relationship with Him is reflected on my vertical relationship with those around me.
Spouse - My wife became my most important human being in the universe, and nurturing our relationship is a must.
Direct and Extended Families - (parents, parents-in-law, grandparents, siblings, brothers- and sisters-in-law, aunts, uncles, nephews, nieces, etc.). As they say, when everyone abandons you, your family will always be there for you. Giving my time, talent, and treasure in the “good” has great returns when I face the “bad.”
Friends - I am not confined to my families only. Throughout life I’ll meet unique and pleasant people who will stick around me, sharing memories and strengthening our relationships. Some friends become even closer than siblings.
Mentors - Insightful and wise personal experiences shared down with me so that I live a smarter and more abundant personal and professional life. Cultivating this type of relationship has benefited me tremendously. Often, I am a mentee and a mentor.
Colleagues/Acquaintances - Spending ⅓ of my daily hours with my colleagues is much of an investment of time. Valuing their presence, skills, and experiences makes my team and company more apt for a profitable environment.
Clients - Treating and relating to each of my clients as unique and listening to their needs while providing helpful opportunities is always mutually favorable.
Community - Being engaged in the affairs of my community has enabled me to better understand its struggles and victories. When struggles emerge, I’ll be as resourceful as I can manage. When victories emerge, I make sure to also join in the celebration.
Interacting with all of these relationship layers take some good time and effort, but I’ve gained much (and given much) from such interactions.
Day in and day out, we do the same thing: wake up, get ready to go to work, get to work and do work, go to after-hours events and/or go back home, have dinner, socialize (either with spouse and/or children or with technology), and go to sleep. What makes you partake this drive in this life pathway? Are you the driver or the passenger? Daily, we do things that drive us to perform. We work to pay for our needs and pleasures. We stay educated so that we continue to grow. We get in touch with our connections to nurture our relationships. For me, my drive touches the following pit-stops along my life journey:
Relationships - I absolutely love to interact with people
Self-Development - I love to see progressive growth
Fun & Relaxation - I love a good laugh and look forward to my vacations
Develop - I am constantly looking for opportunities to initiate new approaches
Establish - After much strategic planning, I often see myself implementing
Improve - Initiate, Plan, Execute, Control, and Closure is a constant lifecycle for me
“We over I” culture - Simply put, I seek to implement the “for the people” approach
Understanding what drives me gives me more fuel and a better understanding of how I should maneuver in life.
Beyond our selfish (which is completely natural and should be nurtured) thoughts and actions, what is our purpose in life? Figuring out the answer takes years, decades, and even a lifetime. However, pursuing the answer should be one’s top priority as life progresses. The sooner you realize what your true value creation essence is, the sooner you will find your purpose.
After years of self-discovery, hundreds of hours on research, and several practicum opportunities, I am not even sure I’ve found my purpose. However, I do have a much better and narrowed answer to what my purpose entails: “to facilitate others to flourish”.
Your life is precious. Your contribution is valuable. Your impact is guaranteed. Don’t let your circumstances, your instant gratifications, your obstacles, your job, or your lack of direction and purpose kill you. Seek to establish what is important to you and go after it. And don’t do it alone.
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Mike Sprowl is becoming the most sought after Readiness & Flourishing Coach and Consultant in the coaching community. He is famous for helping clients find a direction, implement personalized pathways, and facilitate flourishing and growth so that their lives are meaningful and purposeful without being negative.