Learning How To Motivate Myself
According to the Statistic Brain Research Institute, improving oneself entails 73.9% of people’s continuous desires and goals. What an encouraging information this is; to see that the greater majority of individuals recognize that they could think better, do things better, or even simply be a better person.
Through hundreds of self-development inquiries, this is one of the most popular topic: Motivation. With a focus on, but not limited to, professional self-development, learning to motivate oneself is a prime skill. By knowing what your motivations are, the role your motivators play, and how you can motivate yourself is equivalent to being able to use your car’s headlights. Although you don’t need your car’s headlights in order to drive it to your destination, having headlights enables you to see through the darkness in the middle of the night. Just like motivation enables you to “see through the darkness” in your personal road of life.
At the end of the day, the reality is that motivation eventually wears off on us. However, motivation keeps us encouraged. It provides us with an incentive or reason for doing something. It optimizes our reasoning with our feelings, giving us the fuel necessary to push through beyond our previous thought-of physical or mental strength. Identifying what motivates us is a must. It could be recognition, validation, bigger “blank”, better “blank”, more “blank”; finding and utilizing the motivation unique to you enhances the possibility of reaching your ambitions and emotionally connects you to the process.
In order for you to be able to learn how to motivate yourself, a key question you must ask yourself, and spend a good 30+ minutes on answering this question, is:
What motivates me?
Is it my family?
Is it my spouse?
Is it my environment?
Is it my job?
Is it my ambitions?
Is it my dreams?
Is it my passion?
To accomplish a specific result, don’t we need to understand how to do the work to accomplish that result? If you want an email sent to your boss, don’t you need to be able to know how to write and send that email? The same concept is applicable to knowing what motivates you, for it gives you the energy and the push you need to perform the work needed in order to accomplishing the specific desired result.
Why are you motivated by your motivators?
Maybe what motivates you is one of the motivators listed above; or it might be a combination of them; or even all of these motivators plus some. The reason behind why you are compelled to work harder (if found, understood, and defined) is a primary motivation force to use. Here are some plausible reasons why one is motivated by their motivators:
I want my family to enjoy life; live in a comfortable home, be able to afford fun activities, travel around the world, and have access to self-development opportunities.
I want my wife/husband to find happiness, security, growth, and flourish; having nothing that hinders her/him from accomplishing her/his goals and desires.
I don’t like where I am at in this stage of my life; I need to find a way to get out of this hole and start flourishing personally and professionally.
I’ve been stuck in this dead-end job. I don’t feel challenged, motivated, neither have I been given the opportunity to grow. Plus, I don’t make enough money.
I want to make more money. I want to find a better job. I want to grow professionally. I want to be in a company that is aligned with my purpose. I want to make an impact where I work. I want to get promoted.
Personally - I want to travel the world. I want a big family. I want a nice house. I want my dream car. I want to help others be successful.
Professionally - I want to have my own business. I want to be the CEO of a non-profit. I want to travel as part of my job.
I want my professional and personal skills and qualifications be aligned with my passion and enable me to make a positive impact in the world while living a comfortable and exciting life.
Understanding the “why” allows you to be more intentional on taking advantage of your motivations to boost you to pursuing your goals, wants, and desires.
After exploring what motivates you and determining the reasons you are motivated by your motivators, the question that is missing and calls for actions is:
How do I motivate myself?
Focus - Stay focused on your motivators and desired outcomes.
Daily Reminder - Get some accountability (me as your coach, a family member, a friend, a colleague, a boss, etc.). Print your motivations and reasons and display it on your bedroom and office at work. Set event calendar reminders to be emailed to you at 6:30am every day.
Create A Habit - Set a plan that cross references your actions with your desired outcomes and act on it daily; and eventually your routine will become a habit, then a mindset, then a lifestyle.
What’s In It For Me - Keep in mind what you are going to earn by being disciplined and working hard to accomplishing your desires.
Progress - Track progresses you make. It shows you have moved forward and accomplished tasks, allowing you to see yourself closer and closer to your desired outcome.
Learning to motivate yourself is a valuable skill. Staying focused, setting daily reminders, starting a new habit to induce progression, keeping in mind the benefits of your hard work, and tracking your progress is a good start. Alongside your practicum for exercising the learning you’ve acquired to motivate yourself, adding your own thoughts and perspectives to this process is encouraged.
As previously stated, knowing what your motivations are, the role your motivators play, and how you can motivate yourself is equivalent to being able to use your car’s headlights. Although you don’t need your car’s headlights in order to drive it to your destination, having headlights enables you to see through the darkness in the middle of the night. Just like motivation enables you to “see through the darkness” in your personal road called life.
Challenge Question (Above and Beyond the Call of Duty):
How can you get hooked and dwell in your motivation so that you can rarely lose focus and push through your unfulfilling situation (and/or feelings) so that you accomplish your ambitions and desires?
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Mike Sprowl is becoming the most sought after Readiness & Flourishing Coach and Consultant in the coaching community. He is famous for helping clients find a direction, implement personalized pathways, and facilitate flourishing and growth so that their lives are meaningful and purposeful without being negative.